Spice up your profile!

Why am I not getting responses from other members? ..................................................................................

If you're not getting many responses from other members, below are a few suggestions to help. Most likely you need to spice up your profile so that you catch peoples' attention. If you're not getting many responses from other members, below are a few suggestions to help. Most likely you need to spruce up your profile so that you catch peoples' attention.

Post photos in your profile. People like to talk to people they can see, so the more photos you have up, the more comfortable people will be emailing to you. In fact, most members only search for and write to people with photos, and that's why members with photos get 8 times more emails!. Your photos should show more than just what you look like -- they should communicate your personality and the things that you love about your life! Ideally, a life that someone would want to be a part of. What should you show? Think fun, happy, warm, interesting, smiles... and think about the things that you love about your life (skiing, painting, partying,traveling,cooking etc.). The first photo should be a headshot and the others can be more creative. Just remember to make them clear, recent and in-focus!

Make your descriptions more descriptive. Snappy descriptions are what it takes for you to stand out in the dating crowd and, more importantly, attract the people who are right for you. The key to writing great descriptions? It's all in the details... in giving specific examples. No one wants to see boring lists of adjectives (nice, smart, funny, successful, attractive). They want specific examples of the things that make you different, interesting and fun to be with. Write like you talk. Pretend you're hanging out with your best friends, telling them exactly what's on your mind.

Write great personal introductory emails. Although "Hey, you look cute, check out my profile," may sound short and sweet, in fact, it is so cliche. When contacting other members, remember to ask yourself, "Why am I writing to this person?" and then tell him/her. Flattery, writing about things you have in common, and a sense of humor will get you everywhere.

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